Showing posts with label Attraction. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Attraction. Show all posts

Monday, 1 September 2014

We Are What We Repeatedly Do!

I was asked for my opinion of what the following message means



OK - here's my best interruption at 7AM in the morning.


We Are What We Repeatedly Do ........ it's along the same lines as:

"‘You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.'
Jim Rohn"

But because likes attract, eventually the bigger number of people will outweigh the smaller number of people, unless we do something to change the odds and change the mix of people we hang out with.

This article that I found on google goes deeper into the "average of five people" topic - you can read it here

So, if we hang out with people who are constantly striving to be better, who are honest and true - then we will be that too because who we chose to spend our time with, influences who we are.  If we hang out with a bunch of crack addicts who don't respect themselves or others and steal from and abuse others to feed their habit, then, if we don't stop hanging with them, we will eventually become like that too.

If we want to be poor we should hang out with people who are poor and have a negative poverty mentality, then eventually we will become that too because there are immutable laws that say "likes attract and negativity will always pull you downwards".

If we want to be rich, hang out with people who already have money because their actions, thoughts and deeds will be different to the people who are poor.

Same with weight loss - if you want to lose weight - hang with people who are skinny because their actions are different to people who are fat.

So if we are what we repeatedly do in the above examples - if we repeatedly hang with the crack addicts because we grew up with them and went to school with them and feel some sort of guilt if we don't - then by repeatedly ignoring the warning bells and still hanging with them - then despite the good we hold within, eventually bad will "out average" the good and we will find ourselves in trouble with the law.  Then we end up in the criminal justice system surrounded by more crims and we spiral downwards.

If we repeatedly ignore health warnings, those actions will eventually see us ending up sick.

If we want something in life, but don't take the steps toward it, we will not get want we want.

So for instance an Olympic athlete repeatedly gets up each morning and does their training - if they do it enough and have the right mindset, eventually they will make the team.  If they repeatedly lie in bed or keep the thoughts they were bought up with that say "you will never amount to much", then they won't make the team.

Going up to the olympics we often see someone injure themselves just before they get on the plane to go.  If we went down the burrow, despite their best training schedules and despite their talent, they will often be repeating a family mantra that says "something always goes wrong" - or "I'm not really good enough for this team" and bam by "doing" that thought, they attract an injury that will make those thoughts come true or they will over train despite being told to rest and hurt themselves on their very last session.

The people who hit the winning tape are the ones who are the best at repeatedly doing ALL the things that are best for the outcome they desire.

Same with people who are sick - often they don't follow to the letter what their health professionals tell them and wonder why they don't get well - what they are doing becomes what they are.

How often do we see people told to rest and they think better of that advice and do the opposite and wonder why they end up back in hospital.

If we repeatedly do negative behaviours that don't support our dreams - we won't get our dreams

If we repeatedly do the positive things that support our dreams and set our goals and do ALL the behaviours and actions that will get us to those goals, then eventually we will get what we want.

However, this applies to everything including our thoughts, so if we let negativity into our thoughts then we become those negatives - hence why it is so important that our thoughts, actions and deeds are in alignment.





Have a read of Keith Richards bio "Life" and you will understand why they became the Rolling Stones - in the early days all they did was play their guitars and live the life of a rock star - they literally slept with their guitars.

Bands that make it tour constantly - they just "DO" so often that eventually become what they want to be.

While watching the INXS doco recently it was plain their success comes down to the number of gigs they did.  Most bands fail when they stop repeating the one thing that will make them successful - playing!

No one would go through the poverty and loss those guys did in the early days, but they just kept doing it way beyond anything anyone else ever would put themselves through.

I heard Bono tell Elvis Costello once:  "For anything to be really amazing, there has to be a long obedience in the same direction."  You can read about that interview here

What I think he was trying to say was that you have to obediently do the right things over and over again for many years to get something amazing.  He was talking about how The Edge had the luxury of not being in the limelight so much so was able to just play guitar all the time whereas he doesn't feel he is as talented as The Edge because Bono was pulled off track by the political "earth saving" stuff. 



Let me know what you think "We Are What We Repeatedly Do" means below.

Wednesday, 13 February 2013

I Want To Be A Crazy One When I Grow Up!

I love the Apple ad campaign that says “the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world .... are the ones who do".  

I encountered one of those crazy people when I first started out as a coach.  His name was Thomas Leonard and he was the founder of this amazing place called Coachville.

It was the 10 year anniversary of his death this week and Coachville asked the members of the Graduate School to remember Thomas in a Top Ten.

Top Tens Were Legendary!

Every day we got a top ten in our inbox.  Back then we thought this was mind blowing technology.

Each day the latest thinking from the Coachville Community was beamed into our inbox and each day we were inspired to greatness by Thomas or one of his merry band of followers. I even had some top tens published.

Words can’t go anywhere near explaining how excited and validated I felt when for the first time I opened the top ten of the day and found it was mine.

Thomas taught us stuff that is probably even more valuable today than it was when we learned it.

We would sit on crackly teleclass lines for hours listening to his wisdom rolling in.  Frequently too scared to ask questions in case we got the “stupid” silence - Thomas didn’t do so well with stupid and let you know!  For us downunder it was frequently the middle of the night.

Most of the time we had to dial in a couple of times during the call because the bridgeline technology was pretty shaky in those days.  Frequently we’d end up on calls that had been double booked.  It really was the wild west.

The technology now is so much more stable and everything is so much easier, but the simplicity of getting your message to world is still made possible by the humble teleclass.

As I sit here ten years on and think about Thomas I know he had to leave us.  He had done so much to change the world in a very short space of time.  He invented coaching and now its fairly mainstream.

If he had stayed, sure we would have kept listening in and being inspired, but for me his death signalled the time for me to get really serious.  To honour him fully was to stay in the game and keep going.  I did!

I’m so pleased I was around in those heady days.  My big regret is that I didn’t go to see him in Sydney when he came downunder.  I let sensible take over and didn’t load the credit card.  I reasoned I could see him another time.  Part of me knows that happened for a reason.  He was a unique character and didn’t suffer fools gladly.  I know he upset a few people who did go, and I’ve heard some horror stories from people who worked with him.  This way the legend lives on unscathed.

The crazy ones aren’t easy to be around.  They set standards well above the norm.  They get frustrated when you can’t keep up with their thoughts that run at a thousand miles an hour.

I’ve come to understand they are connected to their higher selves in a much stronger way than “normal” human beings.  As I read the biographies of other crazies, there is a constant that runs with them all.  They have been through more than most and they carry a passion that will withstand anything that is thrown at it.

So many describe the creativity that flows from them, as God given, or almost like they can’t stop it.  Thomas was like that - he couldn’t stop the need to help people connect with the power of coaching.

Love ya T - here’s to the next crazy 10 years.

This is the Top Ten I wrote for the Coachville celebrations:

The Top 10 things I learned from Thomas Leonard

  1. Never settle today for what was ok yesterday
  2. Say it like it is and then add value
  3. Don’t tolerate what’s holding you back
  4. The shift key, full stops and commas are a waste of time
  5. Keep your keys in a bowl and your towel on a hook
  6. If you can’t do it, start doing it anyway
  7. When in doubt, create a top 10
  8. Don’t wait until its perfect, get it out anyway
  9. If you wait until the bureaucrats are ready, the time has passed
  10. Being #1 is the best and only place to be


Wednesday, 10 August 2011

You can’t fly with eagles when you keep walking with turkeys

I feel like it has been a mad journey since October 2010 when I first made the shift to Infusionsoft, arguably the worlds greatest customer management system.

Then secondly I migrated my whole office from PC to Mac in December 2010 - I even have an iPad now.

Those who have followed my journey will notice I always take a quantum leap when I do things!

As usual I was overly optimistic about how hard this would be, and didn't fully factor in how long it would take. Infusionsoft was a beast of a thing to get set up, and I purchased just before they introduced all their cool new wizards. But now it's rolling I sit here daily and marvel at some of the things it does. I am really excited what it can do and I look forward to really being of much greater service to my customers going forward with all this awesome technology.


A strange thing occurred though as the technology bedded down.

As I started to get used to the new Macs (did I mention I have an iPad now) it has forced everything to a higher standard.

Same with Infusionsoft.

These companies can afford to employ some of the greatest innovative minds on the planet. So you either get into their mindsets and start to think like they do, or you have to return back to your old systems. I'm not a go back kind of gal!

There is a golden rule in the personal development industry that says, hang out with the people you want to be like, and a bit of them will automatically rub off on you ....... if you let it!

Another way of saying that is - you are the sum of the top 5 people you hang out with or even more simply - you are who you hang out with.

Or even more crudely from the Daggermouth song:

“You can’t fly with eagles when you keep walking with turkeys”


I have found this to be absolutely true, but until now, I hadn't fully realised that technology could have the same effect.

But its not just technology, it relates to everything.

When I've had clunky cars - I've been clunky myself. When the house is a mess - usually I have too much going on and no time to tidy up and the mess starts to drain me.

Your business is the same, if you aren't giving it the time, energy and effort it deserves, and implementing EVERYTHING I tell you, then you get naff results.

The only way to change a situation is to change something.

In the Attraction Program, one of the principles is to Tolerate Nothing. This involves going through and looking at every single thing that isn't working for you, from the button that is missing on your blouse, to really big things like relationships that aren't working for you.

Initially it seems a little bit negative to make a list of negatives!

But of course you become more attrACTIVE when you get more active and start changing or fixing the things on the list. So the idea is to switch the list to positives by systematically removing the negatives.

When I turn on "Big Mac" (with a 27 inch screen - bigger than my tv!) every morning, I save the TWENTY minutes it used to take for my PC to fire up. Big Mac is ready to go in under 30 SECONDS - I still marvel at that!

Imagine that: 365 days x 20 minutes = 7,300 minutes each year saved.

That's a whopping FIVE full days a year I DON'T sit watching a PC boot up. And no I didn't sit and watch it all the time, I would turn it on and go put the kettle on. That lead to multi-tasking and often I got drawn off to do other "stuff".

The difference is now, when I show up in the office - I am focused and working immediately. I find also I am thinking more clearly, planning more and getting more things done with ease, simply because my equipment is good to go when I am.

I am writing this on my iPad (did i mention i have one?) in bed, listening to the wind play through my trees and watching the sun send dabbled light into my room and enjoying the blue skies. Does that energy inspire and transmute to me - I'm reckoning it does.

I had been tolerating the waste of time and need to always be plugged into mains power for over a year as my PC died an agonising death.  That toleration was going on everyday as it crashed and burned it's way through the work load.

No wonder I was getting worn out!

I had been tolerating this for a very long time and it had been silently draining my energy.

Maybe do an audit of the things you have been tolerating and start cleaning them up as time and your budget allows.

Just about as attractive as my new iPad I reckon ........ did I mention have one :)